Why Men Foreplay Lazy? This reason!

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For women, foreplay can determine their success in achieving orgasm. But not a few women who complain their partners prefer toeat straight 'main course' during sex, no foreplay first.

If you had to choose, men tend to have sex immediately without the need for foreplay (heating). Excerpted from Your Tango, most men just want orgasms andwanted to go directly to 'target'. What are their reasons?

1. Assume Foreplay Less Masculine

"Men who are young tend to think that things like hugs, kissesand touches, as many have doneduring foreplay reflects the nature of feminism," says sex expert Dr. Brian Parker.

Most men just want to do thingsthat make him feel manly in frontof her. Considered foreplay activities that 'girly' and only for women.

2. Understanding the Female Body less

To be honest, many men who do not quite know where the location of the zones on the female sex. Therefore, you shouldtell her and ask her male partner, the part where you want to be stimulated during foreplay. Similarly, man, do not beshy to tell her what you want tofeel. If you can not say it, just show me directly what's on your brain.

3. Fear still Exploring Female Body

By Mark Epstein, MD, a psychologist in Manhattan as reported by WebMD, "Men in general are still afraid to explorethe female body."

For that, show us that you will feel more passionate and enjoy sex session if he wanted foreplay. No matter which part will he touch, because all it wouldneed pembelajarna process. If you touch make you less comfortable, guide to the 'direction' is correct. Led her to where you want to excitatory show her that you like being touched in that section. Sharing information is key to a delicious foreplay action.

4. Can not Maintain Erection worry

The average man can not maintain his erection worry. That which dominates their brain during lovemaking. Explained Mark, if he worried about losing his erection, so they hurry to sexual penetration.

Reason for wanting to rush and fear of losing an erection that is what makes a man finally skip foreplay. "Or they'll do it quickly because it wanted to keep his erection," said Mark again.

5. Ego Men High

Selfishness of man came when hejust wanted to eat 'meals core' without going through the 'appetizer'. To cope with this kindof guy, as your female partner had to explain why he should notmiss 'appetizer'.

"Tell him that foreplay will make sex last longer events. The longer you touch and spoiled him,the more passionate orgasms are actions that you will feel with him," said Parker.

Then how the solution that men want and feel comfortable doing foreplay?

Mark suggested, you and your partner can compromise with each other. For example, ask him to do foreplay first. If at that erection can not be maintained, it is your turn to give a stimulus.

While sex consultant Dr. Vanda Mustika said, "Find the right time. Maybe the husband did not knowhow to give a stimulus to you."

Other solutions, you can explore yourself and your partner's body. Try to explore your body so you can help the couple to find out what you actually like. Ofcourse you also need to learn hisbody. The couple certainly did notwant to just touch on the area-that's it.

Try telling him that foreplay last longer than sex itself (an average of 12 minutes). With the longer you touch and kiss, to the more powerful you feel orgasm as well.